Everyone wants to enjoy a healthy, loving and exciting love and sex life, but sometimes the craving to experience and enjoy it can get in the way of actually getting it. Whether your lack of sexuality has resulted in loss of sexual desire, sexual inhibitions or lack of orgasm, the first step is to stop blaming yourself. If you constantly criticize yourself, then you create unnecessary stress which makes it impossible for you to enjoy or perform. The moment you stop worrying about how you look, what you are or are not doing sexually, is when you will set yourself free, your mind and body will be free to enjoy the most pleasurable sexual experience with your lover without any limits.

First I’m here to tell you that sex with someone you love is the best prescription for good health. It keeps you young, keeps your sexual organs in good working order and sex makes you feel confident. Nothing else stimulates all the senses quite like sex.  It just puts a glow on you that no other activity does.

One of the most important psychological benefits of an active sex life is that is can reduce stress.  The sedative effect of sexual activity is conducive to fighting the effects of daily tension and stress. If you have trouble sleeping, the release of tension can then lead to a deeper, quicker sleep. And sex can be an effective anti-depressant because it releases feel-good neurotransmitters from the brain called Dopamine. The physical and emotional aspect of sex can work together in improving self-esteem. Orgasms can contribute to an overall sensation of well-being that lasts long after the final tremor.

Let’s face it, orgasm provides a break from reality. It is a natural high, satisfying us physically and emotionally. Orgasm gives us indisputable confidence and teaches us to accept who we are.  Orgasm can also be a spiritual experience, uniting two lovers into one.

Now that you know sex is good for your health, let’s focus on you. You are a beautiful woman who radiates love and you have wonderful qualities that you must love and appreciate in order for someone else to value them too. Think for a moment of all the wonderful qualities that you have to offer another person and identify each one in your mind right now as you continue to breathe easily, naturally and spontaneously. Now imagine that you are standing in front of a full length mirror looking at yourself from head to toe. Give yourself some physical and appreciative compliments as you look at yourself beginning with your face. Tell yourself something that you love about your face, then move down your torso and tell yourself something that you love about your upper body, midriff and lower body; don’t forget about your legs and feet. Really love every part of your body.

Now that you have given yourself many deserving compliments, the next step is to take a moment to be grateful for what you have.  So often we forget to think positively and take time to be thankful for that in our lives which is good. Think of three things that you are most grateful for right now as you enjoy this relaxing experience. Never put off appreciating what you have already achieved, big and small. Acknowledge your achievements over the last year and feel proud of yourself. Tap into that emotional place where you feel good about all that you have done.

You know what it feels like to be desirable, so I want you to look at yourself in your minds eye approvingly with desire and feel every muscle, every nerve, and every fiber of your being begin to tingle. Enjoy the warm sensation spreading throughout your body as it switches on to its desire mode. Allow yourself to surrender to this good and natural feeling of self-love and desire. Imagine now that there is a seed of desire that has been planted inside you and as it gets bigger, you let go of all your inhibitions, sexual guilt or shame and you surrender to the ultimate pleasure of your sexuality. You deserve to experience the ultimate pleasure humanly possible.