Dating with Psoriasis

POSTED ON: Apr 24 2011  • 

For some people finding romance and building intimate relationships is even more challenging than for others, especially for those who suffer from psoriasis, an autoimmune disease that affects the skin. About 5 million Americans suffer from psoriasis and even though it’s not life threatening or contagious, it is not curable, only treatable. Psoriasis occurs when skin cells rise too rapidly from below the surface and stack up on top of each other before they mature. This produces blotchy, red or brown patches of thick inflamed skin often covered with flaky scales that can be painful and irritating. Some psoriasis sufferers also experience joint inflammation and arthritis, resulting in psoriatic arthritis. It’s no wonder that single people with psoriasis feel insecure about meeting people for fear of their negative reaction.

I had a client, Sally, who confessed that she didn’t feel worthy of being loved because of the way her skin looked. Consequently she hibernated in her home, over-ate and fell into a deep depression for over 5 years before coming to seek professional help. I helped her to reconnect with herself by persuading her to reward herself on a daily basis. She started to pamper herself with little things like getting her hair done, and then revisited some old favorite pastimes she used to enjoy, like going to an afternoon movie matinee. In short, she was doing things that made her feel good. Before long, Sally had a positive attitude that allowed her to let down her guard. With her newfound self-love and confidence, Sally was ready to join in some social activities. She started by joining a book club, but began to feel uncomfortable when some of the other members looked curiously at the skin breakouts on her hands. Sally took my advice and made the first move by saying, “Have you ever heard of psoriasis? It’s a skin condition that I have, but don’t worry because I’m not contagious and I promise I won’t drop down dead from it either.” One person laughed and then everyone else warmed up to her. Sally had educated them in a matter of moments and made herself a lovable person at the same time.

Open, honest communication is always the best policy as opposed to trying to hide the fact that you have psoriasis or any other disorder for that matter. If you meet someone that you care for, let them know about your condition, but also tell them that it is manageable so that you don’t alarm them. Your attitude can make the difference in how others respond to you, so make the choice to have a positive attitude because that is positively infectious.

If you’re in an intimate relationship and suffer from psoriasis, communicate openly and honestly with your partner. If you’re not in the mood to make love because you are in pain or discomfort, don’t just reject your lover, which will make them feel unwanted and helpless, instead, compromise by suggesting some other kind of intimacy such as hugging, kissing, caressing, listening to music or any other activity that will give you quality time together.

Always remember that people cannot read your mind, so you need to communicate your wants, needs, desires and fears.

The good news is that there are support groups like the National Psoriasis Foundation and more treatment options available than ever before. For more information on psoriasis and to connect with experts and get the facts on the very latest treatments go to: www.psoriasis.org

Tease and Please Your Lover

POSTED ON: Apr 21 2011  • 
CATEGORIES:  Better Sex, Quickies

It comes quite naturally for women to want to tease their lovers and most men really enjoy the anticipation of what’s to come. Lots of women wish that more men would tease and seduce them more often, so here are some helpful hints to tease and please your lover.

1. Greet your lover at the door wearing nothing but a hat or a pair of sexy shoes.

2. Send an erotic sext message to your lover with graphic details on how you want to have sex with him or her.

3. Do your yoga or workout exercises naked in front of your lover.

4. Surprise your lover by joining him or her in the shower.

5. Meet your lover in the middle of the day for a make-out session.

6. Call your lover while you are masturbating and describe your every move on the phone.

7. Hide a naughty little sex toy in your lover’s favorite cereal box.

8. Give your lover a photo of the most erotic part of your anatomy.

9. Go to dinner without wearing any undies and be sure to let your lover know.

10. Seduce your lover in the car, in the garage and see how far you can go.

For more seductive ways to tease and please your lover, check out this months Cosmopolitan Magazine where there are 50 ways to seduce your lover in seconds.

Kissing Rules

POSTED ON: Apr 15 2011  • 

Is there such a thing as a bad kiss? You betcha! A kiss is usually the first intimate physical contact with a new lover, so you don’t want to turn them off. I believe that you can tell a lot about a person’s lovemaking skills by the way they kiss. So, if you want to impress your date with a magical memorable kiss, then check out the ten kissing rules and use them as a guideline on how NOT to kiss.

1. No forcing – only kiss those who want to be kissed.

2. No judgment – never criticize your partner’s kissing technique.

3. No tongue shoving – play nice, as tonsil hockey is a sport best left for the ice.

4. No biting – be considerate and do not leave a hickey unless requested.

5. Start softly – lead the way and build up to a wet passionate French kiss.

6. No drooling – suck it up before you start kissing.

7. Good breath – be prepared with mints, gum or breath spray. Would you kiss an onion? Neither will they.

8. No chapped lips – moisturize with lip balm to keep them soft, supple and kissable.

9. No slobbering – wiping your mouth and chin should not be part of kissing.

10. No lip-smacking sounds – a little pleasure moaning can go a long way, but lip locking and smacking sounds can kill the romance.

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