POSTED ON: Nov 27 2011 •
A great way to maintain playfulness in your relationship is to have more fun together in the bedroom. Explore new activities and create some intimate games for more variety. Add a few adult toys to the mix and they can help avoid predictable sex while intensifying eroticism for you both. Here are three sex toys that are discreet and make for a great stocking stuffer.
Line up that deck of cards for a showdown Texas style. Challenge your partner to a nude heads up game of Texas Hold ‘Em and start with equal amounts of chips and keep raising the stakes to get high enough to go all in. The winner not only gets bragging rights, but a nice orgasm too with one of Evolved’s Bottle Rocket vibrators, waterproof, whisper-quiet with powerful vibrations you can use on the mons, labia, clitoris, penis, testes or anus. See the video at the bottom of this blog.
This game is win-win for both of you as you exercise the vaginal muscles during penetration. The goal is to see how many reps the woman can can do before the man climaxes. To get the vaginal muscles in shape, warm up with some Kegel toys by inserting exercise balls that does the vaginal calisthenics for you. The Fun Factory makes a popular brand called Smart Balls with different textures and colors and Hustler toys makes the Dare Devils self-vibrating weighted vaginal balls. The kids will never know what they are if you leave them out.
Hide & Thrill
The game is to time how long it takes to find your lover hiding from you. The finder gets to wear an oral vibrator on their tongue and then give oral sex for the same amount of time, so the longer the better. First step is to slip a Screaming O tongue vibe right over your tongue for a super sexy sensation that your lover won’t soon forget as you lick him/her to orgasmic bliss.
POSTED ON: Nov 16 2011 •
Jealousy is a human emotion that has varying degrees that can range from mild protectiveness to dangerously high levels of rage towards your partner.
Jealousy often stems from a lack of self-worth and if you don’t work on raising your self-confidence and loving yourself, it can destroy you and your relationships. There is no bigger turn-off than having a neurotic partner who overacts whenever you look at someone else.
A jealous person who constantly accuses their partner of disloyalty perceives them as being less committed and wants to appear desirable, yet feels unworthy of being loved and unconsciously pushes their partner away. Their imagination is uncontrollable and they have graphic visions of a competitor trying to steal their partner away, which is defeating and unbearable.
The key to dealing with jealousy is to negotiate a set of rules that you can both live with and respect. Below are 10 steps to help you handle jealousy.
- Create a signal that the jealous partner can give when they need some extra support and attention. (Such as raising the pinky finger).
- Set a certain amount of phone calls a day to check in with each other (about 3 is fair).
- Let the jealous partner communicate their feelings and actively listen to them without judgments to help them overcome their fears of losing you.
- Reassure them of all their qualities that make them lovable to you to validate their significance in your life.
- Write a Couples Mission Statement together of your heart values and relationship goals for the next 5 years.
- Express your love with displays of affection by hugging, kissing and eye contact daily.
- Give each other physical, emotional and appreciative compliments.
- Take turns initiating romantic date nights that result in making love.
- Surround yourselves with friends and family you both like.
- If jealousy increases, seek professional help as a couple.
POSTED ON: Nov 06 2011 •
Lust for revenge is hardwired into our brain and stimulates the reward part, providing feelings of pleasure that can motivate a person to take revengeful action. The most common reaction to betrayal is shock, hostility, anger and revenge.
There are many different kinds of revenge that range from extreme violent revenge like Lorena Bobbitt who cut off her lover’s penis. Tit for Tat revenge by having an affair with one of your lover’s relatives or best friend. Vandalizing revenge like the man that chain sawed his house in two after the divorce and the woman who threw nail polish on her ex’s car. Trickery revenge by getting even with someone without them ever finding out that it was you who reported them to the IRS or got them deported. But the most common is the humiliating revenge like the furious fiancé who plastered billboards of her ex after catching him cheating and the husband who sold 200 sexy photos on eBay of his cheating ex-wife. One of the worse kinds of revenge is when hostile parents use their children as weapons and poison their young minds against each other. This has long term affects that can ruin an innocent child’s life.
In the heat of passion a rational person can instinctively lash out and do something they may later regret. But the good news is that even plotting revenge can release the powerful feel-good hormone, Dopamine, hence the expression ‘sweet revenge.’ So, think about the consequences before you exact revenge towards someone who behaved badly and ask yourself if it’s worth it? It is a natural human instinct to want to punish someone who has hurt you, but if you stop to think about the consequences, you may just realize that the best revenge is “happiness.”