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Please your Partner with Power Play

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POSTED ON: Feb 25 2012  • 
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In the sex community, BDSM are four letters that stand for six words—Bondage, Discipline, Domination, Submission, Sadism, and Masochism. It’s a playground teeming with games to utilize the exchange of power to heighten pleasure and tantalize the senses. So lets explore the titillating world of these power exchange sex games from my new book, The Sexy Little Book of Sex Games, where you and your partner trade off being sexually dominant and submissive to one another. You will need an open mind, mutually trusting hearts and a bit of imagination to let these games be fun and exciting for you and your partner. Some other key ingredients include trust, respect, consent, good negotiation skills, honesty, and great communication. Some of the sex games may include being tied up or blindfolded, so having a solid sense of trusting your partner to have your best interests in hand is important.

Blind Love
Flip a coin to see who is going to be blindfolded and then lead your lover to the bed. Undress and ravish him or her with total abandon, which should be easy because they can’t see you.

Punishment Box
Keep a secret box of “punishments” to use on your lover when it’s time for some fun. Have a set of cards with erotic punishments written on each one so that you can pick one randomly. Punishments can range from being tied up, blindfolded, and deprived of orgasm, spanked, or humiliated by walking around naked wearing a leash.

Wrestle Mania
Challenge your partner to a nude wrestling match and experience foreplay the Greco-Roman way. For an added twist, consider greasing yourself up with oil and incorporating aspects of bond- age. Would wrestling blindfolded change the dynamic? Try and find out.

Lusty Shopping Spree
Go with your partner to a dollar store and each fill up your own baskets with 10 items to use for power exchange games. For example, a spatula for caning, pantyhose for blindfolding, clothespins for pinching, bobby pins for scratching, an oven mitt for spanking, and tape for tying. After 15 minutes of shopping, get together and compare. The person to reach 10 items first wins.

Top and Bottom Satisfaction
Take turns switching between being a Top and a Bottom so that you can be a dominant one day and a submissive the next. As a Top, you can take away your slave’s senses to make any punishment experience more intense. Take away their sense of sight with a blindfold, remove their sense of touch by restraining them, and deprive them of hearing with earplugs or earmuffs. Now you can stroke your lover’s body with ice or any other textures.

For more playful ways to add passion to your love life, get The Little Book of Sexy Games by Alpha/Penguin Publishing  http://is.gd/EVY16r

 

Mindful Masturbation

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POSTED ON: Feb 20 2012  • 
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I encourage my clients to masturbate because orgasms have tremendous health benefits to body and mind. I believe that regular masturbation will produce certain emotional and physical health benefits.  Its long been established that there are myriad of health benefits related to sexual activity.  This awareness has been recorded in our culture for centuries in the form of old wives tales such as “Use it, or lose it.”  Just as if you don’t use your common household appliances regularly, they will become rusty.

Masturbation is a freedom of expression that allows you to pleasure yourself on your own terms, can help you figure out how you feel about sex, allows you to explore your sexual fantasies and is an acceptable selfish act. You never need to make excuses about why you do it. It is a gift you have just for yourself.

Here are 10 Steps to Mindful Masturbation

  1. Make sure you are in a comfortable and safe place where you can relax.
  2. Close your eyes and empty your mind of worries.
  3. Breathe deeply and slowly.
  4. Explore your body with your hands and fingers.
  5. Add some lube for a silkier sensation.
  6. Release sounds of pleasure.
  7. Let your fantasies run wild.
  8. Focus your touch on a primary erogenous zone.
  9. Use a sex toy for more direct stimulation.
  10. Let yourself go and surrender your mind and body to orgasm.

Giving this precious gift of self-love and self-acceptance is key to living a healthy sexual life, whether you are single or in a relationship.

Take an online course in masturbation and discover dozens of new male and female techniques at: http://www.loveologyuniversity.com/ShortCourseDetails.aspx?CourseID=24

The Perfect Kiss

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POSTED ON: Feb 14 2012  • 
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A kiss can be one of the most romantic, sensual and erotic exchanges, on a first date or in a lasting relationship. Many people ask me to describe the perfect kiss, so if you want three quick and easy steps for the perfect kiss, this is for you.

Step #1: The Tease

Begin by using your tongue to trace around your partner’s lips and then spread them apart with your tongue. With open mouths, lips not quite touching flick your tongues against each other teasingly.

Step#2: The Tongue Sucker

Then wrap your lips around your partner’s tongue sucking on it, moving your head back and forth as you increase the speed and intensity.

Step #3: The Perfect Make-Out Kiss

Continue lip-locking alternating between tongue flicking and tongue sucking while moving your lips in a slow circular motion together. Also use your hands to caress your partner and press your body against each other for the perfect make-out kiss.

I’ve written a whole chapter on Kissing Games in my new book, The Sexy Little Book of Sex Games available at:
http://is.gd/EVY16r