Marilyn Monroe’s Little Secret

POSTED ON: Aug 14 2012  • 

There is a new book about Marilyn Monroe called, Marilyn Monroe: My Little Secret that alludes to her bisexuality and the emotional satisfaction that she found in the arms of a younger woman.

The author Tony Jerris met Jane Lawrence in 2001 and he was inspired to write her story of how at age 12, she started Marilyn’s fan club at Fox. By the time Jane was 15, their relationship had become physically intimate. Marilyn was 25 and referred to Jane as “my little secret.”  The book is a provocative, poignant, no-holds-barred account of the relationship between Jane and Marilyn, which Tony has written in Ms. Lawrence’s voice.

Marilyn changed Jane’s life, not because Jane was a star- struck fan in the presence of a big star, but because Marilyn opened up to Jane a side of herself few ever saw. She taught Jane to expect certain things in life and to not accept others. And it’s not because she was Marilyn Monroe and could get anything she wanted, but it was because deep inside, it was Norma Jeane who never forgot the hardness of her upbringing and, as an adult, was simply no longer willing to settle.

Today bisexuality is far more acceptable, especially in Hollywood where lots of stars have come out proudly to declare their love for both men and women. From, Angelina Jolie who has been open about her bisexuality and Drew Barrymore who said that she always considered herself bisexual, even though both of these women have primary relationships with men, bisexual behavior has become much more visible compared with Marilyn Monroe’s generation. It’s tough to estimate the exact percentage of bisexual women 50 or more years ago, but In the third edition of his textbook Evolutionary Psychology: the new science of the mind, Professor David Buss (University of Texas / Austin) asserts that “1 to 2 percent of women” are bisexual.

If Marilyn Monroe was alive today, she would probably follow in the footsteps of Hollywood stars like Evan Rachel Wood who was quoted in Esquire saying, “I’m up for anything. Meet a nice guy; meet a nice girl…Yes, (I’m bisexual) and Lady Gaga who admitted that her lady loving scares off her boyfriends. Megan Mullally was one of the first actresses to come out as bisexual in 1999. The late Amy Winehouse wanted people to know that there was something about being with a woman that was very satisfying for her.

Physiologically, females have a greater need to emotionally bond and they can thrive from intimate physical relationships. With the release of this book, it can help women to realize and accept their bisexual needs, wants and desires.

I asked Tony about what inspired him to write Marilyn Monroe: My Little Secret and he said, “I’m a guy from New York who was fascinated with all things Hollywood, which is why I decided to move “here.” Needless to say, I’ve always been intrigued with Marilyn, being that she’s such an iconic figure in Hollywood history. But when I heard Jane’s story about Marilyn, it humanized her in my eyes. It’s no secret that Marilyn enjoyed surrounding herself with ‘youth,’ maybe because as a young girl hers was so tragic I realized Jane and Marilyn shared a true friendship, and if two people can find solace in one another, be it emotional or physical, so be it.”

U.S. & Canadian residents can buy a signed copy of Marilyn Monroe: My Little Secret by the author at:http://tonyjerris.com/

The book is also available worldwide (unsigned) online @ Amazon or Barnes & Noble.

Celebrity Break-Up Lessons

POSTED ON: Jan 08 2012  • 

Why do celebrity couples get married to each other when the odds are stacked up against them? From power struggles to jealousy, inflated egos to insecure hang-ups, many celebrity marriages do not have happy endings like a Hallmark movie. Here are four valuable lessons we can learn from some notable Hollywood divorces.

1. Clashing Egos

Certainly when a talented Actress wins an Oscar for Best Actress, her husband had better be damn secure if he is not in the limelight. Sandra Bullock, Hilary Swank, Reese Witherspoon and Kate Winslet all got divorced after winning the acclaimed award. None of these women should be married to another celebrity who is insecure, jealous, egotistical, competitive and feels entitled to cheat when he is unsatisfied in their relationship. They need a proud, supportive, successful, sympathetic partner with high esteem who they respect.

2. Distance Detachment

Long distance relationships don’t make for successful marriages, especially when the celebrity’s sex life is unfulfilled. There is always ample temptation to cheat and when horny, even celebs don’t think about the disastrous consequences. Actress Demi Moor and Actor Ashton Kutcher’s marriage failed when he fell prey to infidelity, even though they dated for two years before they got married. Many people blame the 16-year age difference, but I think the worship of their mutual celebrity impacted the destruction of their relationship.

3. Opposites Don’t Last

Opposites may attract initially, but they don’t always make for a long lasting relationship, especially in the case of British Actor Russell Brand and American pop star, Katy Perry who were only married for 14-months.  He was a recovered hard partying heroin and sex addict and she was an all American daughter of an ultra religious upbringing by Evangelists Church minsters.  It didn’t take long before they both realized they had totally different lifestyles with different taste in different things. They didn’t even like each others friends and they didn’t want to live in the same country. Perhaps they should have discussed their differences before they wed.

4. Power Struggles

A recipe for an unhappy marriage is when one successful celebrity tries to dominate the other without their approval. This may be evident in the relationship between Jennifer Lopez and Marc Anthony, an equally hot and talented couple that looked like the perfect family with their twins. Everyone was rooting for their marriage to work, but these two strong personalities may have found the constant struggle for power impacting their love life and even the raising of their children. Now they are competing as they have both moved on with younger lovers.

Watch me talk about J. Lo and Marc’s power struggle on Access Hollywood.
http://www.loveologyuniversity.com/DrAvaPages/nbc-accesshollywood-20120105.html

Is Tiger sorry, or just sorry he got caught?

POSTED ON: Feb 19 2010  • 

I was disappointed in Tiger’s 14 minute carefully written and rehearsed press conference where he apologized for his infidelities and confessed that he’d spent 45 days in an in-patient facility and is returning tomorrow for more treatment and therapy because he needs help to curb his cheating.

There was little to no emotion as he kept on glancing down to read his speech, even when he spoke of his wife and children. “Elin has shown enormous grace and poise through this ordeal and she deserves praise not blame,” he said. Yet she wasn’t by his side, so what does that tell you?

When Tiger spoke about his beliefs in Buddhism, there was a slight spark in his body language and it may have surprised a lot of people that he didn’t turn to Jesus or God, but to Buddha  for his spiritual guidance.

Buddhism, he said, teaches that “a craving for things outside ourselves” can only lead to “unhappiness and a pointless search for security.

I must admit that I agree with many of the Buddhist teachings including, forgiveness of self and others. I also agree with their beliefs when it comes to sexual ethics. “Do not indulge in sexual misconduct” or “Do not misuse sex.” Buddhism  does not condemn sex before marriage like most other religions, but does condemn non-consensual or exploitative sex. However what does Buddhism have to do with Tiger’s cheating? He said he strayed from his faith and implied that it may have contributed to his behavior.

So Tiger’s life needs to regain balance (whose doesn’t?), he wants to regain his respect and he plans to return to golf one day, but until then he is asking all of us to find room in our heart to forgive and believe in him again.

I would have liked to see a much more sincere Tiger speaking from his heart not a sheet of paper. His statement should have been shorter and he should have taken questions and answered them with no-holds barred answers.

So is Tiger really sorry, or just sorry he got caught?

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