Marilyn Monroe’s Little Secret

POSTED ON: Aug 14 2012  • 

There is a new book about Marilyn Monroe called, Marilyn Monroe: My Little Secret that alludes to her bisexuality and the emotional satisfaction that she found in the arms of a younger woman.

The author Tony Jerris met Jane Lawrence in 2001 and he was inspired to write her story of how at age 12, she started Marilyn’s fan club at Fox. By the time Jane was 15, their relationship had become physically intimate. Marilyn was 25 and referred to Jane as “my little secret.”  The book is a provocative, poignant, no-holds-barred account of the relationship between Jane and Marilyn, which Tony has written in Ms. Lawrence’s voice.

Marilyn changed Jane’s life, not because Jane was a star- struck fan in the presence of a big star, but because Marilyn opened up to Jane a side of herself few ever saw. She taught Jane to expect certain things in life and to not accept others. And it’s not because she was Marilyn Monroe and could get anything she wanted, but it was because deep inside, it was Norma Jeane who never forgot the hardness of her upbringing and, as an adult, was simply no longer willing to settle.

Today bisexuality is far more acceptable, especially in Hollywood where lots of stars have come out proudly to declare their love for both men and women. From, Angelina Jolie who has been open about her bisexuality and Drew Barrymore who said that she always considered herself bisexual, even though both of these women have primary relationships with men, bisexual behavior has become much more visible compared with Marilyn Monroe’s generation. It’s tough to estimate the exact percentage of bisexual women 50 or more years ago, but In the third edition of his textbook Evolutionary Psychology: the new science of the mind, Professor David Buss (University of Texas / Austin) asserts that “1 to 2 percent of women” are bisexual.

If Marilyn Monroe was alive today, she would probably follow in the footsteps of Hollywood stars like Evan Rachel Wood who was quoted in Esquire saying, “I’m up for anything. Meet a nice guy; meet a nice girl…Yes, (I’m bisexual) and Lady Gaga who admitted that her lady loving scares off her boyfriends. Megan Mullally was one of the first actresses to come out as bisexual in 1999. The late Amy Winehouse wanted people to know that there was something about being with a woman that was very satisfying for her.

Physiologically, females have a greater need to emotionally bond and they can thrive from intimate physical relationships. With the release of this book, it can help women to realize and accept their bisexual needs, wants and desires.

I asked Tony about what inspired him to write Marilyn Monroe: My Little Secret and he said, “I’m a guy from New York who was fascinated with all things Hollywood, which is why I decided to move “here.” Needless to say, I’ve always been intrigued with Marilyn, being that she’s such an iconic figure in Hollywood history. But when I heard Jane’s story about Marilyn, it humanized her in my eyes. It’s no secret that Marilyn enjoyed surrounding herself with ‘youth,’ maybe because as a young girl hers was so tragic I realized Jane and Marilyn shared a true friendship, and if two people can find solace in one another, be it emotional or physical, so be it.”

U.S. & Canadian residents can buy a signed copy of Marilyn Monroe: My Little Secret by the author at:http://tonyjerris.com/

The book is also available worldwide (unsigned) online @ Amazon or Barnes & Noble.

Olympics Sex Games

POSTED ON: Aug 09 2012  • 

We’ve all heard the myth that athletes should abstain from sex before a boxing match or football game, but what about the athletes at this year’s Olympics. Should they or shouldn’t they have some consensual adult playtime?

Myths about why athletes should practice abstinence:

  1. Sex depletes too much energy
  2. Sex leads to increased frustration
  3. Sex prevents a good nights sleep

These myths have influenced some coaches to keep their athletes in separate hotels away from their spouses and lovers, the night before a big game. Even at the Olympics there are certain rules limiting late-night activities with the opposite sex. But, rules are made to be broken and some athletes have admitted to hooking up wherever they can. Fortunately for them, there is now ample evidence that sex before competing can be beneficial.

Results of some studies that report the benefits of sex for athletes:

  1. Sex releases pleasure endorphins that affect emotional well-being
  2. Sex is a powerful pain killer that can relieve aching muscles
  3. Sex boosts testosterone so it can enhance strength and endurance

Studies were published in the Clinical Journal of Sport Medicine, reporting that having sex the night before competing in sports has no impact on performance.

The low down on the Olympic condom distribution:

There were more than 100,000 condoms being handed out to the Olympians as added amenities and that’s good news for these young, fit, like-minded competitors, striving for gold. And who can blame them for partaking in extracurricular sextivities to celebrate their accomplishments? From the moment they arrive, this Olympic pleasure paradise is driven by the basic instinct of sexual chemistry. So, with about fifteen condoms available for each athlete, you can imagine just how much sex they are having.

What we can learn about sex at the Olympics:

We can learn from the Olympics, that whether it’s communication, intimacy, or a steamy fling, the athletes are looking for, the Olympic Village is the perfect opportunity and place to find a partner who can understand, support and stimulate them mentally, physically, emotionally and/or sexually. All are with accommodations and safer sex protection provided, so why not enjoy some sexycise to get the testosterone up and those feel-good endorphins flowing. My suggestion for next time, is to give them some lube and sex toys too!

Please Your Husband By Becoming His Mistress

POSTED ON: May 29 2012  • 

Many men expect their wives to be their lover, best friend, nurturer, confidant, lifelong partner, playmate, social director, family organizer, shopper, domestic goddess, soul mate and sexpot in the sack. In other words, they want their woman to be more of a mistress and less of of wife. So, here are seven ways that you can make this demanding fantasy into a reality and keep your relationship fulfilling for both of you. As with all of these steps, sexiness comes from within:

1. Look good for him and for yourself.  Just knowing that your man is more physically aroused should give you plenty of tools to turn him on. You can become his fantasy woman by surprising him at the door wearing a skirt or dress so that he can fantasize about what kind of panties you may have on, if any.  Be sure to compliment your outfit with a pair of high-heels to enhance his sense of sight and further eroticize his imagination. Alternatively, you can wear a sexy little apron with nothing underneath when serving him dinner or breakfast in bed. Getting dressed up is also a great way for a woman to get into a juicy frame of mind after a rough day at work or exhausting time with the children.

2. Flirt with your husband. Start by giving him a physical compliment daily and touch him when he least expects it. Just before he leaves for work, squeeze his butt playfully or give him a heart-to-heart hug as soon as he comes home. Smile and lock eyes often to release all of those feel-good endorphins that will make you both feel the pleasure of being in each others presence. Flirting is the bedrock of romance and it will keep the chemistry in your long-term relationship as long as you make it part of your marriage ritual in and out of the bedroom.

3. Make dates spontaneous. Take him out for a seductive date for breakfast, lunch, dinner or anytime you can spend quality time together. Make it memorable by recreating some of the dates you went on before you got married. Sometimes it takes some planning to make the best spontaneous dates work, so prepare a picnic and surprise him by taking him to the beach or a park for a romantic rendezvous.  Commit to taking trips together, even if they are quickie getaways as it can be the glue that takes the relationship to a higher level of intimacy.

4. Be adventurous. Make the first move to seduce your man by pushing him up against a wall and making out or pushing him down on the bed, straddling and kissing him passionately. Try doing something new together so that you get out of your comfort zone and learn new exciting skills such as Power Play by reading the book, 50 Shades of Grey to each other. Go to a Tantric Sex or Kundalini Yoga class and discover the benefits of spiritual sexuality. Learn to Tango together and create sexual anticipation on the dance floor or take an online course on Aphrodisiacs at www.LoveologyUniversity.com and then cook a menu of love foods together.

5. Don’t ambush him with complaints. Men want their wives to be happy, so the last thing they want to hear about after work is complaints about all the things that went wrong in your home. Greet him with affection, give him some space and let him feel like a King in his domain before you state your list of complaints. If he can’t fix the problem, it will just make him feel helpless and even emasculating, so focus on communicating the positive things that happened in your day and ask him to share his best moments from his day. Don’t keep pent up problems to yourself either, but do share them with friends, family and your husband when the time is right so that they don’t feel like they were ambushed. Be sure to make time for your girlfriends because your guy cannot give you the same emotional connection and he probably doesn’t want to hear about your shopping spree or even your best friend’s new baby.

6. Play into his fantasies. Sharing fantasies has a way of increasing intimacy and it can add creativity to your sex routine. By sharing with someone you trust you can let go of the guilt and shame surrounding your fantasies. And you’re cuing your partner into what is most pleasing to you. Sexual fantasies for men are generally more sexually explicit than women’s. More physically arousing, about objects of desire, more likely to specify sexual acts, more visual in content and more likely to contain details about physical appearance. Encourage him to share his wildest fantasies with you, but do not be judgmental. Talk about which fantasies you both want to turn into reality and which ones should remain as fantasies.

7. Ignite your passion to fuel his fire. When you please yourself, you automatically please your partner because he does not want to work at giving you pleasure and quite frankly it’s not his job anyway. So, identify what gives you the most pleasure by tapping into your five senses. Then take the time to look in the mirror and tell yourself how beautiful you look. You get extra bonus points if you can do this naked. Now you are ready to make passionate love to yourself and treat yourself as if you are madly in love with you. Masturbation is the epitome of self-love and exploration of what makes you feel best. It can help you to explore your sexual fantasies, is a precious gift of self-acceptance and key to living a healthy sexual life. Let your partner watch and it will send him over the moon!