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Baby Making Truths and Tales

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The best baby making position for getting pregnant is still Missionary with a pillow under the pelvis, allowing semen to pool around the cervix where it can swim through the hole in the cervix more rapidly. Equally as important, is for the woman to have an orgasm because it makes the vaginal environment more alkaline and her uterine contractions can help sperm swim quickly to fertilize the egg. Since only 25% of woman can achieve orgasm during intercourse, it’s best for her to use a vibrator to stimulate the clitoris during penetration to ensure she orgasms. If the woman has a tipped uterus or cervix, then the best position for conception would be Doggie style as rear-entry lifts the uterus and cervix with the vaginal opening and gives the man maximum control of deep penetration.

Never douche after sex as it will alter the PH balance of the vagina and flush out the cervical fluid that helps the sperm in their egg quest.

Make sure that when using lubricants that it’s sperm-friendly. Many have the undesired result of killing off the swimmers. Pre~Seed is the most popular sperm friendly lubricant on the market and the only one that has been included in independent research studies. Pre~Seed was invented by Dr. Joanna Ellington, a scientist whose research has focused on sperm physiology.

Men need to keep the temperature of their genitals cool for higher sperm count, so avoid hot Jacuzzi’s baths and saunas.

How timing can influence conception

Timing is really important and that means having sex one or two days before ovulation and then again on the day of ovulation, since most women are fertile only during their fertility window.

According to the Shettles Theory, in order to have a boy insemination should occur as close as possible to the moment of ovulation so that the faster, Y-sperm arrive first and achieve conception. When seeking a girl insemination the couple should seek to have sex 2½ to 3 days before ovulation. Dr. Landrum Shettles claimed a 75% to 90% success rate for his simple, at-home method, which advises how to time intercourse to conceive a boy or a girl.

The Whelan Method is pretty much the opposite of the Shettles Method, so to conceive a boy; you should have sex four to six days before ovulation. And to conceive a girl, you should have sex either two to three days before ovulation or on the day of ovulation. Elizabeth Whelan, Sc.D., based the theory that biochemical changes in a woman’s body may favor the Y-bearing (boy producing) sperm occur earlier in a woman’s cycle.

The time of the year is also significant, according to a new study in Israel where 6,000 men with normal sperm production were tested and they discovered that the production of sperm was greater in Winter.

What to do if you want to have a baby girl

The notion is that a woman should be on top so she can control the depth of penetration, instead of deep penetration, men should ejaculate as far as they can from the egg during sexual intercourse. This will ensure that the male sperm, which have a short lifespan, will die before they get the opportunity to reach the egg, thus making sure that you conceive a girl.

Researchers at the University of Exeter in England surveyed 740 first-time mothers and a study by Maastricht University in The Netherlands confirmed to boost the odds of having a girl, mothers should say, YES to calcium and magnesium foods such as yogurt, spinach, tofu, almonds, cashews, beans, oatmeal, broccoli and oranges and, NO, to salt and potassium foods such as anchovies, olives, bacon, salami, smoked salmon, shrimp, potatoes, processed meats, bread and pastries.

The way that this diet influences the gender maybe based upon how it changes the mineral content of a women’s uterine environment (changing the consistency of the cervical mucus), which makes it more hospitable to one type of sperm or another. Similarly, other theories suggest that the “gender diet” can change the pH (acidity) in the woman’s body and therefore change the polarity of the egg. By ingesting the correct ratio of minerals, a woman can alter her uterine environment making it more conducive to attract either an x or y chromosome from the male’s sperm.

What to do if you want to have a baby boy

The theory for making a baby boy is for the man to be on top in Missionary position with the woman’s buttocks on a pillow for deeper penetration to deposit the sperm closest to the cervix. After intercourse, the woman should remain on her back for about fifteen minutes to let the millions of sperm in every ejaculation make their way into the fallopian tubes toward the egg.

As for the woman’s diet, a study in the UK suggests upping calories with plenty of nutrients by at least 400 calories with daily potassium and salty foods that include red meat, cereal, bananas, fish, vegetables and other energy foods.

These sex positions and diets are based on some research, but cannot guarantee the babies gender, however you can have a lot of fun trying.

NOTE: If you’ve been trying to conceive for a year or more without success, visit with a professional fertility specialist.

Resources:

http://www.babymed.com/food-and-nutrition/diet-may-influence-baby-gender

http://www.healthguidance.org/entry/12940/1/How-Sexual-Position-Can-Determi

http://www.babycenter.com/0_sexual-positions-for-baby-making_1812.bc

http://www.thebabycorner.com/page/2654/

http://www.in-gender.com/Gender-Selection/Shettles/

http://www.genderselectionauthority.com/low-tech-methods-of-gender-selection/whelan-method.html


 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

NeuroLoveology

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NeuroLoveology, I have decided is the blending of neuroscience and love, which offers practical applications of brain functioning to heighten intimacy. After all, love should be a priority in our lives, even with so many daily distractions which can prevent us from connecting. We must find ways to get our mind and body ready, willing and able to give and receive love.

One study showed that people on average hold a thought for only 10 seconds before flitting off to something else. Trey Hedden and John Gabrieli, two neuroscientists from MIT studied what happens in the brain when people are distracted by internal thoughts and found that lapses in attention impair performance. I’m sure that would include sexual performance. But there is a way to reshape our brain according to Daniel Goleman, author of Social Intelligence: The New Science of Human Relationships, who writes that  whenever we connect face-to-face, voice-to-voice or skin-to-skin with someone else, our social brains interlock.

A study by research psychiatrist Dr. Jeffrey Schwarz showed that changing the way you pay attention can change the circuitry of the brain not just over months, but even within a few weeks, enough to show up on a brain scan.

Attention itself changes the brain. The power is on the focus. Cells that fire together wire together. It’s called Neuroplasticity and in a bestselling book, The Brain That Changes Itself, author Professor Norman Doidge wrote that learning a new language for example is relatively easy; its just that you have to stop paying attention to your current language to create the new circuits. That’s why moving to France is the fastest way of learning to speak French – your attention is forced there all day long.

Let’s use the same analogy with our intimate relationship…

There are 3 key components to facilitate such change in the brain:

  1. Create a safe non-judgmental environment (with reward for the brain, such as improving communication, positive reward of praise, compliments, appreciation, recognition, more romance and sex)
  2. Focus attention in the right way to create new connections (an effective way to focus attention is simply to ask your partner the right question, to give them a gap to close. The brain is quite happy closing any gap as long as it doesn’t take too much effort. For example, “What is one thing that I have done that has satisfied you in the past?” or “How would you like me to express my love to you?” or “What would it take for us to have more intimacy?” These questions can help couples to arrive at their own insights. Alternatively, you can set goals by focusing on the positive emotions you want to feel when you have reached them, such as being loved, appreciated, validated, cherished, admired and desired.
  3. Keep any new circuits alive by coming back to pay attention over and over again. Real change requires repetition and even though attention changes the brain, the brain pays attention to a lot of things. When you make a promise to another person to do something, it comes into your mind more often, when you write it down, you pay more attention to it than speaking about it casually. David Rock who wrote Your Brain At Work has a great metaphor for making changes to your brain. Think of the brain as a garden, where it’s sunny all the time and rains naturally once in a while. If you want to grow some nice tomatoes, you first plant seeds, which need careful daily watering. Once the plants are a bit hardy, to keep them growing, you should water them regularly. How often is the right amount? If you water once a year, it will probably wash everything away. Once a quarter won’t do much. Once a month will help, maybe. Once a week does make a difference to some plants, but watering twice a week seems to make a sustainable and noticeable difference. It seems the best technique for growing plants is to water them each day. I propose that creating healthy new circuits in the brain is not dissimilar. You need to pay regular attention to your plants and to your relationship if you want it to thrive.

Sensual BDSM Preparation

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To prepare for your sensual BDSM experience, create erotic energy by setting the mood for getting intimate and feeling safe. Gentle and passionate kisses set the stage for trust and connection, which is very important. Adding ambiance with music, candlelight, feathers, finger foods and drinks to heighten all of the senses can enhance the mood for sensuality.

Communication:

Before embarking on any BDSM or power play, be sure to share your concerns, fears, desires, and interests so you can both come up with a mutually understood set of limits and guidelines.

Set up a way to communicate while you are playing to let your partner know how things are going. This is an important aspect of safety and essential to create trust and security. Safe words are used to stop play immediately without hesitation. It’s good practice to use non-sexual terms for safe words to maximize communication. Don’t use words that are sometimes spoken during consensual sex, such as NO and STOP, because these words can be a turn-on in role-play, sex, and BDSM scenes.

For safe words, using the stop light system is an effective way to communicate, where saying green means keep going I love this, yellow means you’re at my limits, and red means stop immediately and check in with me now.

Ice Play:

Sensation and temperature play is a form of BDSM power play where objects and substances are used to stimulate the body for sensual effect. Many couples have experimented with using ice cubes on their lover’s body to spice up their sex life. But you can take it a step farther if the focus is on teasing the submissive by the dominant. And like many simple erotic acts, ice play can be turned into a veritable kinky art form, depending upon how and where you use it.

Sensual Biting:

Most people typically don’t think of biting as a form of sex play, but surprisingly, Alfred Kinsey found that 55% of females and 50% of males reported having responded erotically to being bitten. Whether it’s gentle nibbling or offering a firm love bite, biting can be an extremely passionate and enthusiastic BDSM behavior. It’s important to begin erotic biting gently and use good communication to find what is mutually pleasurable. Some people enjoy the use of teeth, others prefer more of a suction action, and a few enjoy a combination. Because biting has the potential to leave marks, it’s always a good idea to discuss skin marks and areas to bite before beginning.

Sensual Fingernail Scratching:

Fingernail scratching on your partner’s body can be an erotic rush for many people. It’s a wonderful way to stimulate the skin and create unique sensations. You can vary the sensation felt by your partner by changing the pattern of scratching, whether it’s digging into the skin, scratching in a straight line, or in zigzag motions. Remember to discuss scratching limits and leaving marks on your body with your partner.

Sensual Hair Pulling:

An erotic activity shared by two partners is hair pulling. For some, it can be a powerful expression of dominance and submission. When we pull hair erotically, we have to remember to not pull from the end of the hair. For most people, that’s not pleasurable pain. For better hair pulling technique, take your flattened hand and slide it upwards beginning at the back of the neck. Get your fingers interlocked with their hair while your flat hand is nestled against their scalp. When you reach the top portion of their head, grip the hair while making a fist and keep your hand close to their scalp. Now you have a firm hold of their hair, which is close to the scalp. Adjust your grip and the pulling according to your partner’s desire. For more advanced hair pulling, try it with two hands.

Sensual Restraints:

Whenever we tie anything to our partners, such as scarves, belt, rope, or neckties, we have to keep safety in mind. Always check to make sure there is enough space between the restraint and their skin. A good rule is to be able to slip one finger in between the restraint and the skin. This will allow for circulation and better comfort. Also, keep a pair of surgical scissors handy, in case you need to remove the restraint immediately.

Sensual Blindfolding:

By using a blindfold to cover your lover’s eyes, you can accentuate all of their other senses, and it can help both partners to feel less inhibited and more daring.

Depriving the senses, such as using a blindfold to remove sight and restraining someone to remove their sense of touch can heighten arousal. It’s a way to increase the sensations of other senses, like hearing, smelling and tasting during sensual BDSM play.

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