Baby Making Truths and Tales

POSTED ON: Apr 16 2013  • 

The best baby making position for getting pregnant is still Missionary with a pillow under the pelvis, allowing semen to pool around the cervix where it can swim through the hole in the cervix more rapidly. Equally as important, is for the woman to have an orgasm because it makes the vaginal environment more alkaline and her uterine contractions can help sperm swim quickly to fertilize the egg. Since only 25% of woman can achieve orgasm during intercourse, it’s best for her to use a vibrator to stimulate the clitoris during penetration to ensure she orgasms. If the woman has a tipped uterus or cervix, then the best position for conception would be Doggie style as rear-entry lifts the uterus and cervix with the vaginal opening and gives the man maximum control of deep penetration.

Never douche after sex as it will alter the PH balance of the vagina and flush out the cervical fluid that helps the sperm in their egg quest.

Make sure that when using lubricants that it’s sperm-friendly. Many have the undesired result of killing off the swimmers. Pre~Seed is the most popular sperm friendly lubricant on the market and the only one that has been included in independent research studies. Pre~Seed was invented by Dr. Joanna Ellington, a scientist whose research has focused on sperm physiology.

Men need to keep the temperature of their genitals cool for higher sperm count, so avoid hot Jacuzzi’s baths and saunas.

How timing can influence conception

Timing is really important and that means having sex one or two days before ovulation and then again on the day of ovulation, since most women are fertile only during their fertility window.

According to the Shettles Theory, in order to have a boy insemination should occur as close as possible to the moment of ovulation so that the faster, Y-sperm arrive first and achieve conception. When seeking a girl insemination the couple should seek to have sex 2½ to 3 days before ovulation. Dr. Landrum Shettles claimed a 75% to 90% success rate for his simple, at-home method, which advises how to time intercourse to conceive a boy or a girl.

The Whelan Method is pretty much the opposite of the Shettles Method, so to conceive a boy; you should have sex four to six days before ovulation. And to conceive a girl, you should have sex either two to three days before ovulation or on the day of ovulation. Elizabeth Whelan, Sc.D., based the theory that biochemical changes in a woman’s body may favor the Y-bearing (boy producing) sperm occur earlier in a woman’s cycle.

The time of the year is also significant, according to a new study in Israel where 6,000 men with normal sperm production were tested and they discovered that the production of sperm was greater in Winter.

What to do if you want to have a baby girl

The notion is that a woman should be on top so she can control the depth of penetration, instead of deep penetration, men should ejaculate as far as they can from the egg during sexual intercourse. This will ensure that the male sperm, which have a short lifespan, will die before they get the opportunity to reach the egg, thus making sure that you conceive a girl.

Researchers at the University of Exeter in England surveyed 740 first-time mothers and a study by Maastricht University in The Netherlands confirmed to boost the odds of having a girl, mothers should say, YES to calcium and magnesium foods such as yogurt, spinach, tofu, almonds, cashews, beans, oatmeal, broccoli and oranges and, NO, to salt and potassium foods such as anchovies, olives, bacon, salami, smoked salmon, shrimp, potatoes, processed meats, bread and pastries.

The way that this diet influences the gender maybe based upon how it changes the mineral content of a women’s uterine environment (changing the consistency of the cervical mucus), which makes it more hospitable to one type of sperm or another. Similarly, other theories suggest that the “gender diet” can change the pH (acidity) in the woman’s body and therefore change the polarity of the egg. By ingesting the correct ratio of minerals, a woman can alter her uterine environment making it more conducive to attract either an x or y chromosome from the male’s sperm.

What to do if you want to have a baby boy

The theory for making a baby boy is for the man to be on top in Missionary position with the woman’s buttocks on a pillow for deeper penetration to deposit the sperm closest to the cervix. After intercourse, the woman should remain on her back for about fifteen minutes to let the millions of sperm in every ejaculation make their way into the fallopian tubes toward the egg.

As for the woman’s diet, a study in the UK suggests upping calories with plenty of nutrients by at least 400 calories with daily potassium and salty foods that include red meat, cereal, bananas, fish, vegetables and other energy foods.

These sex positions and diets are based on some research, but cannot guarantee the babies gender, however you can have a lot of fun trying.

NOTE: If you’ve been trying to conceive for a year or more without success, visit with a professional fertility specialist.

Resources:

http://www.babymed.com/food-and-nutrition/diet-may-influence-baby-gender

http://www.healthguidance.org/entry/12940/1/How-Sexual-Position-Can-Determi

http://www.babycenter.com/0_sexual-positions-for-baby-making_1812.bc

http://www.thebabycorner.com/page/2654/

http://www.in-gender.com/Gender-Selection/Shettles/

http://www.genderselectionauthority.com/low-tech-methods-of-gender-selection/whelan-method.html


 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Sex with a Bad Back

POSTED ON: Sep 10 2012  • 

There’s a lot of talk these days about mixing pain with pleasure, but what about the chronic pain you can’t control? How does living with a bad back affect your sex life?

The National Institute of Arthritis, Musculoskeletal and Skin Diseases reports that 8 out of 10 Americans will suffer from back pain at some point in their lives. That’s a lot of sexually active people who need to figure out how to keep their love lives intact! And painkillers aren’t the answer, because they can lead to a reduced sex drive or even physical dysfunctions.

Maureen O’Leary, a specialist in orthopedic injuries and neuromusculoskeletal impairments, suggests that exercises designed to strengthen and stretch muscles go a long way toward preparing the body for sex. And of course not all back problems are created equal. “People with lower back problems like sciatica or a herniated disc tend to feel more pain when bending forward, while those with spinal stenosis may find bending backward to be more painful,” explains O’Leary. What’s key is to find the specific exercise routine that works for you, which may require consulting a body expert, sports doctor or physical therapist.

Equally important is good communication with your partner. He or she cannot help you or create a better lovemaking experience if you don’t talk about what triggers the pain that you experience. Sharing a warm bath and experimenting with pillows can be a way to relax and begin the process towards intimacy.

“Talk about it,” says Ian Kerner, a sexuality counselor and New York Times best-selling author, who blogs for CNN Health. “ Back pain can be tricky because people often look fine, even if they feel terrible. That’s all the more reason to keep your partner in the loop.”

Don’t try to please your partner at the expense of hurting yourself. Your partner will feel the distraction in your body language, and conclude that something is wrong. If you’re not forthcoming that the ‘something’ is back pain, their imagination could run wild.

There may be certain positions that would work better than others, for example, to bring you both satisfaction, without one person having to ‘grin and bear it.’ It can feel awkward at first to talk to your partner about how you’re going to make love, but you may find that the experience deepens your connection with each other, and that even the steps taken to find comfortable sexual positions such as Spooning or Scissors can bring you back to the same page, erotically speaking.

If your pain is much too severe to try having sex, see a medical professional and take solace in the fact that the severity is likely temporary, and focus on other acts that can maintain your intimacy without rigorous performance. Get comfortable and start kissing if that feels good – hold hands, enjoy each others company! You can even talk about what you’ll relish doing to each other sexually once the back pain subsides and you’re able to resume physical exertion. This kind of mental stimulation may even motivate you to find ways to work it out sooner than you thought!

Check out my online course on Disabilities & Intimacy for new ways to make love despite limitations:  https://www.avacadell.com/index.php?option=com_virtuemart&view=productdetails&virtuemart_product_id=102&Itemid=372

Girl on Top

POSTED ON: Dec 16 2009  • 

A Girl in charge is incredibly arousing! That’s in the latest Cosmo magazine,   January issue on page 79 with the headline Girl on Top. Check out a new sexual position I recommend called the Side-Slide and lots of other juicy tips that will impress your man.

Sexual confidence is the biggest turn on for men, so ladies fake it till you make it. I’m talking about confidence not orgasms!

Just imagine if you were 10 times bolder sexually, what would you do? Talk erotically, do a striptease, use hand cuffs and a blindfold or masturbate in front of your lover to demonstrate what turns you on?

The first step is to get into a juicy state of mind and then release your inner sexpot by loving your body and surrendering to all the pleasures you deserve. The more confident you act, the more confident you will look and feel.

Being bolder can be the spark that ignites your flames of passion.