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7 Steps to a BrainGasm

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Sex starts between the ears as your brain influences the kind of sex you want to have, from romantic, playful, intimate, erotic or wild. Then it releases a powerful cocktail of brain chemicals as the sensations of pleasure travels between your legs.

1. With millions of nerve endings in the brain devoted to the lips, passionate kissing is essential to achieve a BrainGasm. During a long wet make-out kiss, adrenaline makes your heart race while the Nucleus Accumbens controls the release of Dopamine, (a craving signal) from the reward center of your brain.

2. Once the juices are flowing, focus on your partner with your full attention by looking deep into their eyes to release Oxytocin, the bonding chemical that establishes a greater sense of intimacy and increases desire.

3. Put your prominent hand on each others heart to light the emotional fire centers for a heart-mind-body connection. The Amygdala induces sexual energy from the brain as low Serotonin levels make you feel intense emotions as if two hearts beat as one.

4. Whisper how you are going to sexually satisfy your partner into their ears and take in their scent of arousal. Smell is the most primitive of all of our senses that comes from the olfactory bulb, part of the brain’s Limbic System, an area so closely connected with memory and emotion it’s often called the “Emotional Brain.”

5. Take your partner’s breath away by using your breath around their most sensitive erogenous zones from the top of their neck to the tip of their toes. When you blow your cool breath on the left side of your partner’s body, you are stimulating the right side of their brain. Watch your partner’s muscles contract with pleasure, controlled by the Cerebellum.

6. Your partner should be begging you to touch them by now and with the first erotic touch on the nipples, toes or sexual organs, the brains Sensory Cortex region fires up. Neurons that are linked to your various erogenous zones communicate with the Sensory Cortex, to eventually activate the brain regions that produce orgasm. You may be interested to know that the toes are located next to the clitoris in the Sensory Cortex of the female brain.

7. Nipple stimulation, oral sex, sexual intercourse and anal sex activate the Hippocampus, a region of the brain that evokes mind-blowing sensations, while the Frontal Cortex induces erotic fantasies and the Cerebellum triggers body-melting sexual tension, that can all result in an earth shattering, energy melting, all-embracing BrainGasm.

 

Graduating To A Better You

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Here we are in the middle of graduation season! As you watch these young men and women embark on the next chapter of their lives, you have the opportunity to utilize the same symbolism for yourself. While it may have been years since you’ve been in a cap and gown, education never stops and this time of year is a reminder to look back on what has been accomplished while taking the necessary steps to move forward.

A relationship is certainly an education. One with a series of tests, extensive research, the roles of teacher and student, unexpected courses in math, science, biology, chemistry, history, speech, writing, sex ed and, hopefully, a bit of recess! You may not be able to march across a stage to receive a diploma and the applause of an audience acknowledging the accomplishments of relationships, but you are still able to incorporate some of the key elements of graduation into your personal growth.

REFLECTION

We are a world built on momentum that is constantly reaching forward. We rarely take the time to examine the past and the amazing things we have accomplished so far. Take some time to look at the life you have created for yourself. Really see it. Don’t focus on the things that you want to change but allow yourself instead to see what you have done that is incredible. Think about your life’s story and imagine that you are hearing it as if it belongs to someone else. What parts of the story excite you, thrill you, astonish you with their bravery, leave you in awe of our hero? Well, the hero of this story is you. Embrace that.

GRATITUDE

While reflecting, extend gratitude to those that have given your life its color. Maybe this will inspire you to reach out to an old friend. Maybe you will do something unexpected and kind for a neighbor or colleague. Maybe you will sit down with your partner, take their hands and express your gratitude for all the gifts they have brought into your life. Or maybe you will just sit with their image in your mind and love in your heart. Genuine gratitude is an incredible thing to give to another person but it is equally important to give it to ourselves. Take a moment to look in the mirror and see yourself fully and without apology. The person you see is the single most important relationship in your life. Say “thank you.”

FORGIVENESS

One of the single hardest things in life to do is to forgive. It is also one of the single most important things you can do for your own well-being. Forgiveness does not let those that have hurt us off the hook as much as it lets us off our own hook. As Lewis B. Smedes says, “To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.” And perhaps even more challenging than trying to forgive another is making the choice to forgive yourself. Yes, you have made mistakes. That is one of the prices of living. But that is also one of life’s gifts because our mistakes give us character, give us humility, and they give us humor. You are not your mistakes, you are how you let your errors define you. Without mistakes there can be no forgiveness and without forgiveness there can be no love!

NEW GOALS

This is the time to think about what you would like to do next. How do you want to live your life and how do you want your relationships to evolve? A graduating senior must choose whether to continue their education, join the work force, take a sabbatical, settle down or party on. As a student of life, what would you next like to do or learn? Make some new goals. Sure, you can make them epic “bucket list” goals like visit Bora Bora, learn to speak Mandarin, or compete in a triathlon. But find some simple goals as well. Get out of bed 30 minutes earlier. Put down the TV remote and read a book. Learn about one of your partner’s hobbies and surprise them with a gift that shows you support their own goals.

One of the great gifts to give a graduating senior of any age is the Dr. Seuss classic “Oh The Places You’ll Go.” It’s a sweet and whimsical tale filled with reminders of what a great adventure living can be. So as you journey on into the next chapter of your life, I give this great quote from the book, “You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself any direction you choose. You’re on your own. And you know what you know. And YOU are the one who’ll decide where to go…”

A Guide to Orgasmic Foods & Hotter Sex

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Do you enjoy having a torrid love affair with both food and sex? Does eating juicy succulent fruit with abandon and licking your fingers while making sounds of pleasure excite you? Does the sensory experience and aroma of fresh tomatoes with basil spark your arousal so that you cannot resist devouring a taste before it is ready to serve? Well, that means you are probably a passionate lover!

Or are you a finicky eater who shuffles food around the plate while counting the calories in your head? It’s hard to feel sexy when you are hungry. So, let’s face it, if you’re passionate about food, you’re more likely to be passionate about sex.

Food and sex are two of the greatest pleasures known to mankind and both appetites need to be fulfilled. They are part of our vital life force and stimulate all of ours senses. So make a date to cook with your partner and spend some quality time together as you create some sizzling sexy fun with orgasmic foods.

Cooking a sexy meal together can bring on a state of euphoria conducive to sexual expression, especially when you have a variety of flavors; textures, aromas and it looks like a work of art. For example fresh shrimp cocktail presented in beautiful glasses, followed by a light colorful salad sprinkled with sesame seeds, then a juicy, succulent piece of lean meat or a soft, fluffy fish with savory vegetables and decadent chocolate soufflé with ruby red raspberry sauce to complete the delicious meal. Mmm, it sounds orgasmic, doesn’t it? Well that’s because all of these foods can facilitate the big O!

If you’re not much into cooking, here are ten orgasmic foods that you can snack on and they are sure to stir up your sex life.

1. A stalk of crunchy celery is packed with two pheromones that can help men attract women, according to Dr. Alan Hirsch, a neurologist and psychiatrist who has devoted over 25 years of research to the science of smell and taste.

2. Vanilla Ice Cream can boost your libido and can make your orgasm more powerful. A study conducted at Chicago’s Smell and Taste Treatment found that when men smell the scent of vanilla it reduces their inhibitions.

3. The American Dietetic Association reports that Brazil nuts can help keep sperm cells healthy, but if you prefer almonds, you’re in luck as they are high in libido-boosting vitamin E that can boost sex drive.

4. Blueberries are Mother nature’s original potency food for men with erectile problems. Professor Mary Ellen Camire at the University of Maine reports that they are loaded with soluble fiber, which helps push excess cholesterol through the digestive system and they are packed with compounds that help relax blood vessels, improving circulation all through the body.

5. The naughty looking banana can help your body produce sex hormones a few hours before getting it on and it converts carbs into energy so it will give you more endurance between the sheets.

6. The Journal of Sexual Medicine reports that one cube of dark chocolate daily can lead to greater desire and better overall sexual function.

7. Cherries are sweet and tasty, but also stimulate pheromone production and have potassium that is essential for producing sexual hormones.

8. Cucumber is a phallic looking food that arouses women by its aroma as well as the taste. Nutritionally, they provide several nutrients essential for sexual health, including Vitamin C and a mineral called manganese.

9. Strawberries are luscious to look at and delicious to eat, but also a high source of vitamin C and rich in antioxidants that benefit the heart and help lower cholesterol.

10. Ladies chewing on Licorice found it to enhance love and lust as it contains plant estrogen’s and stimulates the sex glands, bringing oxygen to the female genitals 40% faster. Dr. Allan Hirsch of the Smell and Taste Research Institute in Chicago found that the most arousing aroma for women was the combination of Good and Plenty candies with cucumber or Good and Plenty candy with banana bread.  For men, it was the combination of donuts and licorice.

If you want to experience orgasmic food and hotter sex, I recommend, a delightful cookbook written and illustrated with fabulous photos by Linda DeVillers PhD designed to help stimulate and satisfy your creative appetites and get your home fires burning, entitled, Simple Sexy Food. In her book she writes, “Just about any food that resembles the reproductive organs—penis and testicles in men, and breasts, labia, vagina, and ovaries in women—has been cited for aphrodisiac powers. Further, animals and plants with perceived reproductive power (masculine or feminine) are thought by many to aid human sexuality.”

You’ll discover 101 delectable foods and drink recipes, detailed aphrodisiacs, tips and secrets to spice up both the kitchen and the bedroom.

http://www.amazon.com/Simple-Sexy-Food-Linda-Villers/dp/097095655X