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7 Steps to a BrainGasm

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POSTED ON: May 30 2013  • 
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Sex starts between the ears as your brain influences the kind of sex you want to have, from romantic, playful, intimate, erotic or wild. Then it releases a powerful cocktail of brain chemicals as the sensations of pleasure travels between your legs.

1. With millions of nerve endings in the brain devoted to the lips, passionate kissing is essential to achieve a BrainGasm. During a long wet make-out kiss, adrenaline makes your heart race while the Nucleus Accumbens controls the release of Dopamine, (a craving signal) from the reward center of your brain.

2. Once the juices are flowing, focus on your partner with your full attention by looking deep into their eyes to release Oxytocin, the bonding chemical that establishes a greater sense of intimacy and increases desire.

3. Put your prominent hand on each others heart to light the emotional fire centers for a heart-mind-body connection. The Amygdala induces sexual energy from the brain as low Serotonin levels make you feel intense emotions as if two hearts beat as one.

4. Whisper how you are going to sexually satisfy your partner into their ears and take in their scent of arousal. Smell is the most primitive of all of our senses that comes from the olfactory bulb, part of the brain’s Limbic System, an area so closely connected with memory and emotion it’s often called the “Emotional Brain.”

5. Take your partner’s breath away by using your breath around their most sensitive erogenous zones from the top of their neck to the tip of their toes. When you blow your cool breath on the left side of your partner’s body, you are stimulating the right side of their brain. Watch your partner’s muscles contract with pleasure, controlled by the Cerebellum.

6. Your partner should be begging you to touch them by now and with the first erotic touch on the nipples, toes or sexual organs, the brains Sensory Cortex region fires up. Neurons that are linked to your various erogenous zones communicate with the Sensory Cortex, to eventually activate the brain regions that produce orgasm. You may be interested to know that the toes are located next to the clitoris in the Sensory Cortex of the female brain.

7. Nipple stimulation, oral sex, sexual intercourse and anal sex activate the Hippocampus, a region of the brain that evokes mind-blowing sensations, while the Frontal Cortex induces erotic fantasies and the Cerebellum triggers body-melting sexual tension, that can all result in an earth shattering, energy melting, all-embracing BrainGasm.

 

Graduating To A Better You

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Here we are in the middle of graduation season! As you watch these young men and women embark on the next chapter of their lives, you have the opportunity to utilize the same symbolism for yourself. While it may have been years since you’ve been in a cap and gown, education never stops and this time of year is a reminder to look back on what has been accomplished while taking the necessary steps to move forward.

A relationship is certainly an education. One with a series of tests, extensive research, the roles of teacher and student, unexpected courses in math, science, biology, chemistry, history, speech, writing, sex ed and, hopefully, a bit of recess! You may not be able to march across a stage to receive a diploma and the applause of an audience acknowledging the accomplishments of relationships, but you are still able to incorporate some of the key elements of graduation into your personal growth.

REFLECTION

We are a world built on momentum that is constantly reaching forward. We rarely take the time to examine the past and the amazing things we have accomplished so far. Take some time to look at the life you have created for yourself. Really see it. Don’t focus on the things that you want to change but allow yourself instead to see what you have done that is incredible. Think about your life’s story and imagine that you are hearing it as if it belongs to someone else. What parts of the story excite you, thrill you, astonish you with their bravery, leave you in awe of our hero? Well, the hero of this story is you. Embrace that.

GRATITUDE

While reflecting, extend gratitude to those that have given your life its color. Maybe this will inspire you to reach out to an old friend. Maybe you will do something unexpected and kind for a neighbor or colleague. Maybe you will sit down with your partner, take their hands and express your gratitude for all the gifts they have brought into your life. Or maybe you will just sit with their image in your mind and love in your heart. Genuine gratitude is an incredible thing to give to another person but it is equally important to give it to ourselves. Take a moment to look in the mirror and see yourself fully and without apology. The person you see is the single most important relationship in your life. Say “thank you.”

FORGIVENESS

One of the single hardest things in life to do is to forgive. It is also one of the single most important things you can do for your own well-being. Forgiveness does not let those that have hurt us off the hook as much as it lets us off our own hook. As Lewis B. Smedes says, “To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.” And perhaps even more challenging than trying to forgive another is making the choice to forgive yourself. Yes, you have made mistakes. That is one of the prices of living. But that is also one of life’s gifts because our mistakes give us character, give us humility, and they give us humor. You are not your mistakes, you are how you let your errors define you. Without mistakes there can be no forgiveness and without forgiveness there can be no love!

NEW GOALS

This is the time to think about what you would like to do next. How do you want to live your life and how do you want your relationships to evolve? A graduating senior must choose whether to continue their education, join the work force, take a sabbatical, settle down or party on. As a student of life, what would you next like to do or learn? Make some new goals. Sure, you can make them epic “bucket list” goals like visit Bora Bora, learn to speak Mandarin, or compete in a triathlon. But find some simple goals as well. Get out of bed 30 minutes earlier. Put down the TV remote and read a book. Learn about one of your partner’s hobbies and surprise them with a gift that shows you support their own goals.

One of the great gifts to give a graduating senior of any age is the Dr. Seuss classic “Oh The Places You’ll Go.” It’s a sweet and whimsical tale filled with reminders of what a great adventure living can be. So as you journey on into the next chapter of your life, I give this great quote from the book, “You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself any direction you choose. You’re on your own. And you know what you know. And YOU are the one who’ll decide where to go…”

Make Mother’s Day Mindful

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Calling all mothers to take control and make your special day mindful and memorable by planning it yourself in advance. With all the responsibilities you juggle, you deserve to take the day off from giving to others so that you can focus on taking care of your mind and body. It’s time for you to give to yourself generously and mindfully. Celebrate your special day your way and accept that you are worthy of receiving all the pleasures the world has to offer.

Here are 12 gifts to give yourself that will empower you to feel more confident, secure, liberated and fulfilled.

  1. Begin by treating yourself as if you are the madly in love with you. Write a love letter to yourself and list all the things that make you loveable including your positive physical features, behaviors and personality traits.
  2. Put your order in for Mother’s Day breakfast in bed, but be specific about the time and the menu, otherwise your partner or children may just serve you cold cereal at the crack of dawn.
  3. Relax in a bubble bath with rose petals in the water while listening to your favorite music and let your mind wonder to your own scenic paradise.  If you prefer to take a romantic bath with your partner, tell them to wash and dry you, since you are the receiver of pleasure today.
  4. Unleash your feminine power by dressing in something that makes you feel as good as you can about yourself, whether it’s a designer dress with stilettos, jeans with a sexy tee and cowboy boots, or a flowing gypsy skirt with sandals and blouse. When you feel self-assured, others will perceive you as confident.
  5. Love yourself enough for some well-deserved pampering by treating yourself to a skin care treatment, hair coloring, cutting or styling, makeup application, therapeutic massage, intimate waxing, brow shaping or coloring, manicure and/or a pedicure.
  6. Give in to temptation and indulge in your favorite cravings, even if it’s a high calorie red velvet cupcake, peanut butter ice cream, chocolate fudge cake, caramel popcorn, cheesecake, box of gourmet chocolates, milkshake or some awesome cheeses with French bread. It’s okay to give in and satisfy yourself with yummy treats on your special day without any feelings of guilt.
  7. Reward yourself by buying some new lingerie and negligees. Be sure to have a variety to fit your every mood from an elegant chemise, naughty baby doll, sexy teddy, daring thongs, strapless bra, plunge bra or under-wire push-up bra. Wearing sexy lingerie under everyday clothes can put you in a juicy state of mind and boost your confidence.
  8. If you have read Fifty Shades of Grey, then you know that it took the world by storm, selling more than 70 million copies, topping best-seller lists. You can bring the fun of the writing to your very own bedroom with the help of a Shades of Grey Kit thoughtfully put together by The Experience Channel. There is FREE shipping on all products including adult toys and lingerie until Mothers Day.  No Minimums purchase required at at http://www.theexperiencechannel.com/
  9. Meditation and creative visualization allows your mind and body to de-stress and re-energize so that you feel more balanced. Integrate breathing as an exercise as you exhale any negative energy and inhale positive energy for an overall sense of exhilaration.
  10. Every woman has her own signature scent, so treat yourself to a bottle of your favorite perfume or try a new fragrance that fits your personality. Have fun exploring different types of scents from floral, fruity, spicy, woody to musky by dabbing a drop on your pulse points behind your ears or on the wrists.
  11. Dining options on Mother’s Day range from scrumptious buffets to candlelight dinners, but restaurants get booked up in advance so make sure that you choose a place that serves a truly memorable meal that you didn’t have to prepare.
  12. Have fun doing something you haven’t done in a long time or ever. You are in control of your itinerary, so make it good and don’t make excuses. If you want to go to a theater, a winery, nature walk, the beach or a boat ride, state your desires to your family and let them know that you have made arrangements to make this Mother’s Day the most mindful and memorable.

This is a great lesson in giving and receiving to yourself because you are worthy of pleasure all the time, not just on Mother’s Day.