Porn for Couples

POSTED ON: May 27 2011  • 

Today I filmed a segment at CNN on The Dr. Drew Show about how watching porn can impact a relationship which will air Sunday night May 29th.

I believe porn can be used for educational and therapeutic purposes to help couples explore sexual fantasies, reduce inhibitions, avoid boredom in the bedroom and spice up their love lives.

As an AASECT certified sex counselor, I assess clients concerns and discuss with them their personal values and morals, their sexual experiences, fantasies, boundaries and deal breakers.

I’ve helped couples to negotiate the type of porn they can both enjoy watching such as female friendly porn produced by women like Veronica Hart, Candida Royal and Nikka Noel. These movies have story lines, romance, intimacy and lead to sexual activities.

I’ve introduced couples to Sex Education videos and I’m currently producing my own series of HOW TO videos with director Mike McCormick to be distributed by Evolved. There is a need for these videos because nobody teaches you how to be more creative and playful sexually. I believe that if you play together you will stay together.

It’s a fact that watching porn can increase sex drive and arousal by producing feel-good hormones such testosterone, and serotonin. In fact, porn has been used in clinical studies on genital arousal to help women with low libido and Anorgasmia (the inability to orgasm), proving that some women get just as aroused by watching porn as men.

Dr. Drew pointed out that porn can give young people unrealistic expectations and that porn can become addicted. These are both true, which is why we need to continue educating people about the difference between entertainment and reality as well as healthy and unhealthy sexuality.

To find out more about different kinds of porn, take a certified online course on pornography at:

http://www.loveologyuniversity.com/shortcourseDetails.aspx?CourseID=53

My Gratitude List

POSTED ON: Nov 28 2010  • 
CATEGORIES:  Kissing

I am so thankful for all that I have in my life that I thought this would be a perfect time to share my gratitude list as Thanksgiving weekend is coming to an end. I never imagined my life could be this perfect in my wildest dreams, so I am filled with gratitude for the obstacles that I had to overcome and the rocky road that lead me to my happiness and success.

I am so grateful to my husband Peter who gives me the love that I need and the support to follow my passions.

I am grateful for being in good health, despite occasional pain which I have learned to view as a gift. This has taught me to help others deal and manage their pain.

I am grateful to the people who hire me for my expertise and I will always give them more than they expect. Thank you Greg at Evolved and Sol at System JO.

I am grateful to organizations like the YPO and EO who book me as their Keynote Speaker, as I’m inspired by their entrepreneurial spirit and am always ready, willing and able to motivate them to make love a priority in their lives.

I am grateful to my Step-Son Chance who keeps my company organized and for all of my wonderful assistants who I have mentored, whom I also consider as family.

I am grateful to my students from all of the world who want to learn about love, relationships, romance, intimacy and sex by enrolling in www.LoveologyUniversity.com where I can share my 20 years of knowledge.

I am grateful to the producers who give me a platform on their TV shows to reach the masses with my message of healthy love, intimacy and sex. Look for me on The Doctors before Xmas and on HBO’s The Cat House next year.

I am grateful for my loyal friends Christine, Pamela, Christina, Paul, Gurutej and Hernando who convince me to take a break from work to meet for lunch or Happy Hour drinks.

I am grateful to be living and loving my life, sharing it with you and hoping that I can impact your life in a positive way.

Please Your Lover with Sex Toys

POSTED ON: Nov 17 2010  • 

Sex toys cannot replace the fulfillment a lover can provide but they can have therapeutic value by rejuvenating a predictable relationship. They can add more variety, take the pressure off performance for the man, add orgasmic intensity by stimulating her clitoris, G-spot or anus, his penis, testicles or prostate as well as bring a new element of  fun to the relationship.

Before purchasing your first sex toys, it’s wise to consider your needs and/or sit down with your lover to discuss how you both feel about this idea. For example, “I feel like sex toys will add more variety to our sex life.”

Share your concerns and sexual boundaries and respect each others views.

Below are some Sex Toy Rules:

•When you get your new sex toys, start out slow, be gentle and ask your partner for feedback as well as offering your own comments.

•Your lover cannot read your mind, so let him/her know what feels good and if something doesn’t feel good, try something else.

•This is a great opportunity to use some erotic talk to describe your experience and it can improve your communication skills, which will lead to a deeper bond and more intimate relationship.

Some good ways to introduce sex toys in a relationship are:

·      Talking about them

·      Going to a sex shop together

·      Going online to look at a variety of sex toys

·      Choosing one for each of you such as a vibrator for her, a penis or prostate stimulator for him and a vibrating cock ring for both of you

·      Bring sex toys into fantasies such as a threesome with two guys and one girl; use a dildo or vibrator for double penetration

·      Take Loveology University’s Certified Sex Toy course together at www.LoveologyUniversity.com

Here are my top 10 favorites:

1. Evolved’s Silicone Bendable Rose has a pure silicone rosebud with a bendable stem that can hold in any position to give you bud-thrilling satisfaction. It’s discreet for parents, great for a beginner, but powerful enough to impress a sex toy connoisseur.

2. Evolved’s Waterproof Promise Finger Ring and Engagement Finger Ring are perfect for the sex toy novice. They are hypo-allergenic; multifunctional, vibrating, pulsating with five powerful function massagers.

3. The Boss Cock’s Pleasure Ring is a safe, stretchy waterproof, long-lasting, powerful cock-ring with a vibrating bullet designed to stimulate the penis, testicles and clitoris all at the same time.

4. The versatile waterproof FlutterRing that stretches to fit any sized man or penetrative toy. For guys, the Fluttering can give you a harder erection and ladies; its massaging vibrations can massage all your hot spots making your orgasms feel even better.

5. Evolved’s Bendable YOU TOO is a new sex toy with dual motors and 7 functions for twice the intensity to use alone or with a partner as a romance enhancer, G-spot or Prostate stimulator.

6. Evolved’s Bendable Flexems bends to whatever position you want to ensure maximum stimulation. Soft, pliable, stylish and waterproof, the Flexems contour to your shape while its three hypnotic speeds ensure the ultimate erogenous experience.

7. The We-Vibe is a couples vibrator, worn while making love. It’s anatomical shape will fit womens internal contours and will naturally and comfortably nestle in and massage the G-Spot. The flexible We-Vibe will conform inside a woman to accommodate the shape of her vagina while making love in different positions.

8. The Screaming O is a vibrating cock ring that is disposable, lasts for 30 minutes with strong vibrations to tickle her pleasure while keeping him hard. Great for simultaneous multiple orgasms.

9. Digital Playground’s Pirates Pendant Vibe looks like jewelry, but doubles as a compact vibrator. It can deliver five powerful vibrational functions by a simple touch of a button.
10. Liberator Sex Furniture offers lounges, benches and beds to set the scene for seduction while remaining discreet and not revealing its dual nature. When not in play this modern foam furniture cradles your curves, helping to recharge your sexual energy.
A final note before using sex toys is that it’s always a good idea to have some lubricant at hand before you need it as lubes can add more sensuality and comfort to having sex. I recommend System JO lubes which contain the finest quality pharmaceutical grade ingredients.