Many depressed people do lose interest in sex while there are some who find that sex is the only thing that makes them feel better. If you or a loved one has depression, just know that it’s normal to feel and act unhappy.

Here are 7 steps to help you and your relationship battle depression

1. Identify when and what triggers your depression and let your partner, family or friends know so that they are prepared before it happens.

2. Make a list of all the things that you are most grateful for and keep it close by so that you can look at it as a daily ritual.

3. Get out of your home or office, even if it’s just for a short walk preferably with your partner or a friend. Go to support groups, the mall, out to eat, the movies or anyplace where you can be socially active.

4. Take care of yourself physically. Get up, bathe each day and eat nutritious foods. Do not abuse your body by under eating or over eating.

5. Make your heart sing by doing something that makes you laugh or smile. Watch a funny TV show or movie, play with a dog or cat, watch kids play at a playground, go to the zoo, listen to good music or tickle your partner.

6. Do not neglect intimacy, even if you don’t feel like having sex. If you are in a relationship, let your partner know how much you appreciate him or her.  Hold, kiss and caress each other because your brain will release pleasure endorphins that will rapidly elevate your mood. If you’re unattached romantically, pleasuring yourself will give you the same flood of feel-good endorphins.

7. Believe that your depression will be replaced with happiness and make a daily habit of visualizing yourself enjoying life again.

Here are 7 steps to help you help your partner deal with depression

1. Do encourage your partner to get all the professional help available.

2. Offer supportive words, but do not show pity.

3. Emphasize your partner’s good qualities, especially when he/she is feeling down.

4. Help your partner stay active by taking them out socially and stay physically active by walking or exercising together.

5. Listen and be as patient as if your partner was recovering from a surgery.

6. Don’t despair or blame yourself for your partner’s depression. In fact take time to value and reward yourself for being such a loving and caring person.

7. Believe that your partner’s depression will be replaced with happiness and visualize the two of you enjoying life again.

The best therapy for depression or any other serious illness is a good relationship and a loving, supportive partner. The good news is that there is help out there. For more information on depression go to www.depression.com