POSTED ON: Dec 08 2009 •
Can being labeled a sex addict boost your career in Hollywood? Sure it can and it hasn’t hurt celebs like David Duchovny who voluntarily entered a treatment facility for sex addiction or Michael Douglas who was labeled a sex addict by his ex-wife or Gene Simmons and Charlie Sheen who both reportedly had sex with thousands of women. But dealing with a partner who cannot control their sexual obsession can be demoralizing, while the sufferer pursues sexual conquests and is never satisfied.
Tiger Woods is probably the most unlikely celebrity you would ever expect to be categorized as a sex addict. The most successful golfer of all time, married to a beautiful model wife with two children was tempted by multiple women with the list of lovers growing each day.
Sexual Anorexia is the term for people who prefer to fantasize and have sex with others rather than their partner.
So does Tiger fall into the category of (70%) of men who seek the satisfaction of sexual fantasies through cheating or is he a sex addict?
A sex addict is someone who has a compulsive sexual disorder and can’t control him or herself. Here are 12 symptoms of a sex addict:
- Do you think about sex so often that it interferes with your concentration?
- Are you obsessed with a specific sex act such as oral or anal sex?
- Do you find your sex habits are affecting your ability to manage your life?
- Do you feel you are entitled to have sex with whoever you want?
- Would life have no meaning without sex?
- Do you think that sex is the only thing that really gives you value?
- Do you use sex as an escape from your problems?
- Have you ever had sex with someone you didn’t even like?
- Do you keep a list of the partners you have had sex with?
- Do you need the “high” that dangerous sex and the risk of being caught can promise?
- Are you unconcerned about catching an STD?
- Do you feel powerlessness over controlling your sexual urges?
If your answers to all of these questions is “yes,” then you have the propensity towards sexual addiction and like all addictions, treatment begins by recognition that you have a problem. Seek professional guidance; understand that you are destroying a family, reputation, income or career instead of denying the problem and making excuses for your actions. Don’t use sex addiction as a way to cope with your stress and don’t blame others for your sex addiction.
If you are living with a sex addict, there is help for you too so you don’t have to suffer alone. You might feel humiliated, angry and even responsible, but it is not your fault and has nothing to do with you!
Communicate your emotional, physical and sexual boundaries with your partner including your relationship deal breakers.
If you need help communicating, get into couples counseling or join a support group so that you can work towards healing the relationship.
Loveology University has conducted a survey on cheating with over 1000 men and women who completed a 12-question Internet survey on cheating. You may be surprised at the outcome.