I had a client this week who simply wanted permission from a Sexologist to engage in casual sex, so this is what I told her:
Casual sex does have it’s benefits, especially when practiced safely. If a woman has a child or children and doesn’t want to introduce new men into her family until they are in a serious relationship, her best bet is to keep her lovers a secret from her kids and just enjoy the sexual gratification. There are plenty of women, young and mature who are financially independent and want sex, but not a committed relationship. A casual sexual relationship can also be good for a woman’s ego and boost her sexual confidence.
One of the ways a woman can prepare herself for casual sex is to give herself permission to enjoy sexual pleasure without having any emotional expectations. She can have several lover’s who satisfy her physical needs, but she doesn’t want any other kind of attachment. Of course you have to be able to communicate this arrangement to your lovers by saying something like, “I want you to be my perfect lover, but I don’t want to fall in love. Can you handle that?” Most men will jump at the chance to have sex with a woman who makes a statement like that.
The best way to let someone know that you want to have a casual sexual relationship is to talk about it. You can say that it has always been a fantasy of yours to have a lover with no strings attached.
How could you make sure that you are emotionally equipped to handle casual sex?