Is Tiger sorry, or just sorry he got caught?

POSTED ON: Feb 19 2010  • 

I was disappointed in Tiger’s 14 minute carefully written and rehearsed press conference where he apologized for his infidelities and confessed that he’d spent 45 days in an in-patient facility and is returning tomorrow for more treatment and therapy because he needs help to curb his cheating.

There was little to no emotion as he kept on glancing down to read his speech, even when he spoke of his wife and children. “Elin has shown enormous grace and poise through this ordeal and she deserves praise not blame,” he said. Yet she wasn’t by his side, so what does that tell you?

When Tiger spoke about his beliefs in Buddhism, there was a slight spark in his body language and it may have surprised a lot of people that he didn’t turn to Jesus or God, but to Buddha  for his spiritual guidance.

Buddhism, he said, teaches that “a craving for things outside ourselves” can only lead to “unhappiness and a pointless search for security.

I must admit that I agree with many of the Buddhist teachings including, forgiveness of self and others. I also agree with their beliefs when it comes to sexual ethics. “Do not indulge in sexual misconduct” or “Do not misuse sex.” Buddhism  does not condemn sex before marriage like most other religions, but does condemn non-consensual or exploitative sex. However what does Buddhism have to do with Tiger’s cheating? He said he strayed from his faith and implied that it may have contributed to his behavior.

So Tiger’s life needs to regain balance (whose doesn’t?), he wants to regain his respect and he plans to return to golf one day, but until then he is asking all of us to find room in our heart to forgive and believe in him again.

I would have liked to see a much more sincere Tiger speaking from his heart not a sheet of paper. His statement should have been shorter and he should have taken questions and answered them with no-holds barred answers.

So is Tiger really sorry, or just sorry he got caught?

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Tiger Gives Up Golf for Love

POSTED ON: Dec 13 2009  • 

It is no surprise that Tiger Woods announced his indefinite leave from golf to work on his marriage after two weeks filled with accusations of extramarital affairs with 13 women. He would be too distracted to play golf and as a world class athlete, you have to be focused.

Married for five years with two young children, Tiger and Elin both have to be willing to work at saving their marriage if they want it to survive.

As I said on the TV show EXTRA, if I was counseling the couple, I would ask them to share a Love List of all the things they love about each other mentally, physically, emotionally, spiritually and sexually. Then tell them to take turns reading their list to each other. By observing their body language and the way they respond to each others’ list, I could determine the foundation of their relationship.

I would then suggest that Tiger and Elin create their own Mutual Love Agreement with their own terms to improve their relationship where both parties are able to express and negotiate their personal needs in a written format and hold each other accountable. The list of categories should include family, relationship, sexual, financial, health, physical, vacation, career, parenting, hobbies, etc. They must create this document together so that neither one feels coerced by the other and after all of the categories have been filled in by both parties, read and accepted, have them both sign and date it.

The benefits of creating a Mutual Love Agreement is a commitment created together that has nothing to do with the government or church. It can be used to help avoid conflict during the relationship.

For an example of a Mutual Love Agreement you can download your own, fill it out and print it, then share it with the one you love.

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